“It is a risk to love. What if it doesn't work out? Ah, but what if it does.”
A famous quote by a certain Peter McWilliams.
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We’re scared the whole lot of us; but, not of cheap thrills and dangerous rides with gravity-defying stunts, no. We’re scared of falling… in love. That’s the worst kind of fall to have. But, it’s also one of the best things to fall in. But, no, we’re scared. And the reason for the fear is so simple. As individuals—over-ambitious, over-achieving and overtly qualified—we are used to being in control. We love to control the things and people in our lives. From the alarm clock that we snooze every 5 minutes, just so it can blare out again after a while, purposefully, to our employees and subordinates at the work place. Being in control gives us a sense of accomplishment. It makes us feel like our lives our going just as we want it to. And then, just when you’re not looking; just when you’re not ready, love happens. Straight out of nowhere, it hits you like a storm and undoes everything you’ve believed up until that very moment. Every single thing—about yourself, about your abilities, strengths and weaknesses and about others—changes in a fraction of seconds!
You. Lose. Control.
That’s love.
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And just like everything else in our lives, there’s a reason why it happens; believe it or not. Love happens to remind us that, at the end of it all, we are not in control of anything at all. It happens to remind us that no matter how hard we try and how far we get, our sense of control is warped and illusive. But, most importantly, it happens to remind us that we may believe that we control everything and everyone around us, except one person who will walk by at a certain point of our lives and disrupt that control. It reminds us that, we are all but human and at the end of the day, we are helpless for one person, and one person, only. There will be others; plenty of them. But not everyone can stir up a storm inside your soul and still be the one to calm it down. Not everyone can make you fall and still be the one who can pick you back up—stronger and surer. Not everyone can make you question your entire existence up until now. There is just one such person. Sure, there is that theory about having more than one soulmate in a lifetime. I just don’t agree with it; just like I don’t agree with the idea that love is never enough, or that we fall in love more than once in our lives. That’s only half a truth. The part most people leave out is which tells you that out of all the times that you think you fell in love, there will only be one person that you will yearn for years later. It could be in the way that you wonder what if you had stayed with them through it all; or it may be in the way you wonder how, after so many decades, they still make you feel whole. Either way, there is only really ever one person. And that person is the difference between living and surviving mediocrity—something too many of us are settling for because we’re just too tired to wait it out; a little scared too, that we may not find someone like that at all. And so, just as we fear, we don’t.
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The problem with that is we never truly discover the meaning of genuine happiness; actual contentment. 10 years down the line, you’re stuck with someone you settled for because you didn’t want to wait it out alone while everyone else found their special someone. 10 years down the line, you see how it was all a ruse—your desperation to settle and the fact that everyone else didn’t actually end up with anyone special at all because they were doing exactly what you did. Everyone settled. No one waited. And so, love never came.
Don’t be the guy who never waited. Love could be just around a corner; then again, it could be light years away. You just need to know that it will find you when the time is right and that’s all that it should take to keep you waiting for love.
Don’t settle. Don’t ruin your life and the life of so many others by creating a ripple effect. Your finding love is fundamental to finding real happiness and believe me, it doesn’t come from money, presents or compromises. It comes from finding one person who will be your person; like you’ve looked into a mirror and finally found the other half of your soul. Yes, you will fight, cry, hurt and compromise. But, you will grow, become and understand the greater meaning of your purpose in life—to love and be loved.
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