Relationship is not just about the break-up, rebound, moving on or living happily ever after. It’s far more complicated than any of us can ever imagine. There is something called second chance and it knocks the door of every person at least once. Suppose you break up with your girlfriend and a week or a month later she turns up at your place, begging you to reconcile and give her a second chance? Most of you might argue that it’s no point getting back together because the equation has changed between you two, you don’t feel for her anymore or that you can’t adjust with a person you broke up with. Now, what if we asked you to imagine this situation the other way round with you begging for a second chance?
Well, it is hard to ‘let the bygones be bygones’ and it’s even harder to see the person you loved once to be in a miserable condition before you. How can you come out of this dilemma? Think it through before you decide to let her go or welcome her back in your life. Keep these aspects in your mind before giving a second chance to your ex-girlfriend.
1. What Was The Reason For Your Breakup
There can be endless reasons for breaking up and some of them can be really silly. Maybe you two broke up over a petty issue in a fit of rage and did not patch up because of your pride or maybe it was something that could not be overlooked. Whatever it is, you need to understand the main reason behind your breakup and only then you can think of getting back together.
2. What Are Reasons For Wanting You Back
Just like the reason for breakup, why she wants you back is equally important for you to know. Can it be her failed current relationship, any work-related stress, your friends teasing her or you turning more handsome? If she can give you a clear reason for wanting you back, there is no harm in giving it a thought. But whether the breakup reason will affect your relationship now is something for you to see.
© Unsplash3. Don’t Just Go By Words, Look At Her Expressions
What was her approach when she asked you for a second chance - was she genuinely trying to reconcile or was she playing around with you? We assume that you know her well enough to understand when she is putting up a show and when she is serious. So read between the lines guys and trust your instinct whether you want to believe her or not.
4. How Serious Were You Two In The Relationship
The time you spent with her plays a huge role in deciding whether she is someone worth giving a second chance to. If you were together for more than a year or two and broke up suddenly, then you can still think of getting back with her. But if you spent 3 months of your 5-month relationship fighting, then there’s no point even thinking about patch up.
© Thinkstock/Getty Images5. Do You Still Feel Something For Her Or Have You Moved On
Have you already forgotten her and accepted the fact that you two aren’t together anymore? Or do you still crave for her and secretly wish for her to come back? If you were able to easily forget her, this means she wasn’t that important in your life and it’s no point thinking about giving any chance. But if you still miss her and constantly think about her despite trying hard to forget her, then we think you got your chance to get her back.
6. After So Much Can You Still Trust Her
Compatibility and trust are like two pillars for a relationship. So if you two went through a terrible breakup or she cheated on you, whether you can trust her now is something you will have to think about.
© Unsplash7. How Did She Cope With The Breakup
This is not a crime show episode but you cannot rule out the possibility that begging for a second chance can be a set-up to take revenge on you - not that we say it is a revenge thing. But, before you jump to any conclusions, do some background check on her life post your breakup. You can also talk to your common friends who were in touch with her to know if she is really reflecting on her actions.
8. Can You Two Adjust With Each Other Now
You need to understand that ‘second chance’ is not any magic potion. Even if she wants you back, things won’t miraculously turn for good after you two get back together. In fact, things won’t be the same at all and there will be a lot of issues you might have to adjust with. Since you cursed her so much for breaking up, chances are you will be criticized for patching up. Think well before doing anything.
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