While men seem to lead the no-strings-attached dating motto, women are not far behind. One thing that bothers most men while pursuing a woman is the level of commitment she is looking at. If you are looking for a life partner, you are sorted but if you are just looking for fling, you have to tread carefully.
It is a general perception that a woman, if looking for a partner, must be looking for a long-term relationship. While it is true in most cases, considering the pressure of settling down on a woman, there are also times when all a woman needs is a no-strings-attached fling. But how do you tell? What if she gets offended? Surely, you don’t want to mislead a woman when you know you two want different things. Imagine the regret when you realise she was sending you all the hints for a romp in the hay and you resisted all that charm because you didn’t want a relationship.
While there is nothing full-proof and sureshot in suggesting what a woman wants, there are some signs that will help you figure out if she is just looking for a fling or for a serious relationship. Now one thing has to be kept in mind here – no matter what signs a woman gives you, it is never a license for sex. Those are just hints for you to pick up and ask her out – what course has to be taken next depends on your comfort levels and consent.
1. She Touches You Suggestively. A Lot
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This one’s a given. Women do it when they are really interested in you. A casual brush of the arm or standing too close to you is a clear indicator that she likes you. But what distinguishes it from a romantic touch is the way it happens. The touch will be discreet and on unexpected places like brushing of legs when you are sitting together in a cab. If she holds your arm in a cute cuddly way, don’t read sex into it – she likes your company and finds it comforting. But if she grazes her shoulder against your torso, runs her hand through your hair, finishing it ever so lightly on your neck behind the ear, she probably considers you eye candy. Feeling objectified, are we?
2. She Teases You
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Now this doesn’t mean simple harmless banter and pulling your leg. That is plain romance, or just fondness. When her teasing involves physical proximity and action from both the sides, sense a sexual tension right there. Be it pouring water on your face when you are sleeping or tickling your ear, instigating you to jump up in your seat and take sweet revenge, she is looking for excuses to get close to you.
3. She Brings The Topic Of Sex Into Conversation Frequently
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While it is one thing to make sleazy jokes, it is another to talk about it on a serious note. If she mentions sex, is curious about your sex life, or about your sexual fantasies, she is probably testing the waters. She is gauging how much fun you can be between the sheets.
4. She Invites You Over To Her House All The Time
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If you still haven’t read the signs and figured out, be prepared to be pushed into the friend zone. She might or might not accept your offer to go to your place because of comfort levels, but if she has been inviting you over to her place after parties, dates, or hanging out, it means she is comfortable with you and trusts you. You guys could only be chilling for all you know, depending on what she is comfortable with, but it is definitely a step closer towards greater intimacy.
5. You Don’t Really Have A Conversation
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Her responses to your texts are delayed, sometimes in monosyllables, but she always replies. The conversation is either dead or it is flirtatious; it is never meaningful. She is flirting with you but not really talking. And even when you meet, there is no real effort from her side to talk, to get to know you—she doesn’t ask too many questions about you as a person, your profession, your hobbies. She’d prefer to dance rather than listen to you; I know it sounds harsh but that’s casual dating. If you want the same thing as she does, jackpot. If you don’t, you know when to get out.
These are generic signs and may or may not mean something. Whether a woman wants a one-night stand or a fling, it doesn’t mean she is easy and will always be open to anything. It is entirely her will to take the date forward. Consent to sex is not based on a vague sign; it is a clear communication. Having said that, we hope you never miss a chance to pick up the right signs at the right moments!
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